If you listen to everyone in the peanut gallery, it will crush you. You can say I don’t give a shit what anyone thinks, but you are hardwired to care what people think. Instead, you need to be very specific about people whose opinions of you matter. Surround yourself with other people who are being brave with their lives. People who give you good feedback because they have their shit together. In recovery, you WILL leave friends behind, people who are not willing to grow or change. And you will leave those people sitting on the sideline, doing the same things over and over again expecting different results. You don’t need to give a shit what those people think.